Today I attended a Moms-in-Touch meeting at a friend's house to pray for our school, the teachers, and our kids. It's a wonderful national movement for mothers who want to cover their kids in prayer while they are away from home. The women who attend this meeting are very involved in the school and this morning, we talked a lot about the fun school field day coming up. It really made me think about the fact that if I homeschool, my kids will miss out on certain events that have made them feel connected to their friends, to their school, and to their neighborhood, such as the Sock Hop, Multicultural night, Spring Fling, just to name a few. They so enjoy these activities, and as a parent, it's fun to meet new parents and hang out with friends at the events. Perhaps this seems trivial to those who will say that I can join a co-op of homeschooling moms who also host dozens of wonderful field trips and events, but right now, I am feeling a bit hesitant because I don't want to lose the connections that I have right now.
It's the whole "social" dilemma. Does pulling a child out of school create an antisocial person? Who said that school is the best place to learn social skills? I know there are arguments for both sides, but I foresee that I will feel a loss of connection if we are not at the school. Can I live with that? Will I have enough of a resolve and conviction about what I am doing that it will be worth that loss? I'm sure we will meet new people and forge relationships with new friends, but it still won't make the change easy for me. I am a creature of habit, and I like my friends. I fear losing them for the sake of homeschooling.
Right now, the kids still want to do it. Homeschooling was Ellie's suggestion (age 9), and for her sake, I am really trying to consider it fairly. At this point, I am leaning more towards a "pilot" year of homeschooling for the older 2 kids (9 and 6) and sending Sophie (3) to preschool; we can try it out for a year and evaluate whether or not we want to continue next year. I am still reading in my Charlotte Mason's companion book to get a better sense of philosophy so as to root all my fears. I will share those findings in another blog coming soon. . .